“Who is driving us?-The Playtime Way”

There was a village named Keshva and there lived 2 friends named Raghu & Teny. Raghu was 13 years old and Teny was 8 years old. Their friendship was appreciated in entire village and they were known as Jay & Veeru Jodi…

One fine day Raghu & Teny while playing reached to some distant place from village. While catching each other and doing mischief; accidentally Raghu falls in well. Both started screaming for help but alas no one was found around as it was a distant place and no life existed in nearby vicinity. The panicked Teny without any delay threw the bucket in well and shouted for Raghu to get on the bucket. The frightened Raghu without giving any thought climbed up the bucket. The little Teny then started pulling the rope with all his energy that he could gather to the peak level. Teny tried and tried hard and finally the bucket reached top and Raghu came out of the well. The duo with the mixed feeling of fear and happy of being out of danger; tightly held each other and cried out loud. Both after getting control on their emotions walked towards the village but they were afraid of parents to narrate this incident as they would be scolded for their carelessness.

There in the village, entire village was finding their Jay & Veeru Jodi. On seeing them, all ran up to them and asked where they were since long. Both narrated the incidence and the villagers were stunned to listen all. They denied believing them and started scolding them saying there is something else that they are hiding and hence making these stories. Both tried convincing the villagers but no one was ready to believe. Then they decided to take both of them to the most senior and intellectual person in village named Himmat Chacha who has been the only point of contact for any type of advice and problem solver for all. The entire incidence was presented to Himmat Chacha and the villagers asked how it is possible for an 8 year old kid to pull 13 year old out of the well. Himmat Chacha after listening to the kids replied that it is possible and the kids are telling truth. The villagers were astonished by the answer and asked how it is possible. The Chacha replied it was made possible because there was no one around the kids who could tell them that this is NOT possible!!!

The crux of the story says that nothing is impossible until we believe it is possible. One of the perspectives of ‘The locus of control’ theory says that there are 2 types of locus of control- Internal & External. The external locus is driven by factors like People, Environment, Chance, Luck, Fate etc. While the internal locus is driven by Self-confidence, Self-belief and Self-motivation.

There are certain external factors (PEOPLE) who will discourage, feed in negative thoughts in our mind and try to change our belief and thereby loose our confidence. We need to be cautious of such external factors and focus more on the internal control factors like confidence on ourselves to sail through the tides of our life.

Being deaf to the external factors and keeping faith in internal factors is the key to cross any hurdle of our life. It was the internal control of Teny that made it possible to save the life of Raghu as there was no external controlling factor to discourage his confidence on himself and belief that it is possible. The frog race story wherein the winner frog was found deaf also conveys the same concept.

So its up to us whether we want to be a puppet who acts in accordance with people or to have hold of our life’s strings in our own hands!!!

“Kuch to log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna;

               

                                    Chhodo bekar ki batton main, kahin beet na jae raina”

    “Be Confident; Live Confident”

Concept Ref: Julian B. Rotter

“Perception about Life-The Sculpture Way”

What is the meaning of Perception???

* The ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through senses

* Way we think about or understand someone or something

* Ability to understand or notice something easily

Let us understand how life changes by means of perception through a simple story-

One day a man was wandering around in jungles. While enjoying the beauty of nature, he suddenly noticed some tickling sound. On searching, he discovered that 3 workers are dismantling the small traditional temple for building a new one. The man went to 1st worker and asked-“What are you doing?” The irritated worker replied in a loud tone “Can’t you see, I am doing laborious and gruelling pathetic work of breaking the stones? Just go away and let me continue sweating by blood in this draining boredom.” 

The man moved ahead and reached the 2nd worker and asked-“What are you doing?” The tired worker replied in a pity tone “What else we would do sir? We are born to do such arduous work and earn our daily bread to run our family; so doing the same without choice.” The man became little sad on hearing both the workers and understanding their situations emotionally. 

Moving further he saw the 3rd worker. He asked him the same question expecting the same disappointment; but to his astonishment, the answer was completely unexpected. The 3rd worker replied “I am doing a historical work of building a residential place for my Almighty. I am the blessed one of thousands who is chosen for such a noble opportunity of creating shelter for one who gives shelter to all.” 

On listening to 3rd worker, the man understood the biggest crux of happy life which is nothing but our own perception about our own life. 

Some of us are like 1st worker who are frustrated with our lives and rather than looking out productive ways of coming out of problems, we tend to get more negative and frustrated. This creates anger which increases day by day and we end up living a horribly discouraged life!!!

Some of us are like 2nd worker who have accepted the life the way it is. Although dis-satisfactory but no aspirations and thereby no efforts to make it happy going. All fine to spend the whole life as a life waiting for end!!!

Very few of us are like 3rd worker who finds positivity in all the circumstances irrespective of being odd or even and this optimism keeps them happy going. They enjoy all that they do and lives life with a stint of satisfaction. These are the kinds that are always ready to welcome future with a smiling face and be firm in all the offbeat tracks of life too.

It all begins in mind. Our life is reflection of our mind. It is very rightly said-

“Life is based on perception; perception is based on opinion, opinion is based on thought, and thought comes from mind…So….

“Change your Mind; Change your Life…”

"Reaction Vs Response-The Spilling Coffee Way"

Reaction Vs Response

Both 8 lettered words starting with “R” are many times used interchangeably; but the impact of each word on one’s life is invariably high. Let us understand it in depth by means of a story:-

The Coffee

Scenario-1

One day, a father in hurry of going to office was stepping down stairs hastily from bedroom towards the dining table. The daughter was having her breakfast on the same table. Looking at her father, the little angel wished “Good Morning Dad” and while trying to embrace him, her tiny hand touched the coffee mug and the entire coffee spills on father. The furious father scolds the daughter which leaves her crying. He quickly changes and on the way to office, he drives his daughter to her school. On the entire way, daughter was sobbing and didn't utter a word. After dropping his daughter, he enters office where his boss asked for an important file of business plan to be presented. But he realizes that, in the hassle, he forgot the file at home. He was badly reprimanded by the boss and was asked to get the file at earliest. The poor father did so. After entire day’s suffering, when he rings the door bell, the wife opens the door with furious eyes without smile on her face (she was angry with his behavior in the morning). The wife keeps dinner on the table and goes straight away to her room without talking to him. The father had dinner alone and on reaching bedroom he finds his wife and daughter in deep sleep. He too falls asleep with a heavy heart.

x_______________________The End____________________________x

Scenario-2

One day, a father in hurry of going to office was stepping down stairs hastily from bedroom towards the dining table. The daughter was having her breakfast on the same table. Looking at her father, the little angel wished “Good Morning Dad” and while trying to embrace him, her tiny hand touched the coffee mug and the entire coffee spills on father. The father looks at his daughter and moving palm on her hair explains her to be careful with her actions. The daughter realizes her mistake and says sorry. He rushes back upstairs to change the attire and after changing, on the way to office, he drives her daughter to school. On the entire way, the daughter was happy and excitedly talked about the preparations of annual event to be held in her school next week. After dropping daughter, he reached office and when the boss asked for an important file of business plan to be presented, he presented the file and the deal went as per the plan. After spending entire day productively in office, when he rings the door bell, the wife opens the door with a sweet smile on her face and serves the dinner on table. Both while having dinner together talked about entire day’s activity. They both pampered the sleeping daughter and fell asleep.

x_______________________The End____________________________x

Now if we analyse both the scenarios;

What was common in both situations???

“The Spilling of Coffee”

What was different in both the situations???

“The Behavior of Father”

In scenario-1, the father reacted to the situation and in scenario-2, the father responded to the situation

Off the entire day in both the scenarios, the spilling of coffee was 10% portion of whole day while rest of the things that happened forms the 90% of the whole day. 

This is called 90-10 principle which says; 

Only 10% of things in our life are not in our hands and are pre-determined to happen. However, the rest 90% of the things are determined by Self, Our Reactions and Our Responses. The life will take us on a different path altogether if we start practically following the 90-10 principle and start Responding to things rather than Reacting towards them.

Always remember, Reaction is an impulse action which surpasses the role of Mind and Response is a thoughtful action which is sign of a mindful person

“Stay blessed; Stay Happy…"